January 2011

Someone recently told me that they noticed that they had "white knuckles" from constantly having their hands clenched in anticipation of some horrible fate. The obvious problem is that by clenching, they have an illusion of control. There is no such thing. Stop grasping so...

Perfectionism is rooted in the desire to be accepted. It creates anxiety and makes each day stressful. Perfectionists run from one project to another, always looking for the applause and acceptance they need like a drug. Usually they have trouble creating close relationships. When you...