20 Feb Birds of a Feather Flock Together
We all have heard the expression “birds of a feather flock together”. Basically, you will notice that people who spend a lot of time with each other usually adapt the same characteristics, mannerisms and positive as well as negative traits. I always say that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. The best thing you can do is to evaluate, whether you like it or not, the relationships you spend the most time with, and walk away if that person is not a positive influence. I have been honored with many amazing friendships..some for many years and some fairly new. But, not everyone is meant to stay in your life indefinitely. It’s never easy walking away from a relationship/person you know in your heart is toxic, but it is the best decision you will ever make. A person who is trying to better themselves cannot spend the majority of their time with a negative person or situation. A person who wants to maintain a good reputation cannot spend the majority of their time with a dishonest person. You will end up lowering yourself to their level and taking on the qualities that you are working so hard to avoid. You will be defined by the people you “hang with”. It is about you understanding your worth. Because of my career, I meet a lot of people, both on the internet and in person. I have been fooled several times when I discovered that some who claim to be one thing, and who they actually are, contradict each other. Those relationships must end. Some of these people have become bitter, but that’s the way it has to be. When I need to move on because I cannot deal with people with no integrity, then I must move on. Period. Don’t worry about pleasing everyone. Remember that who you associate with can really put a damper on your joy and your professional life that you worked so hard to build up. Don’t let it happen to you! Know your truth. Birds of a feather really do flock together, so take a really close look at who you are keeping company with. Make sure you are surrounded by people who really care about you and your happiness and growth. You don’t want to be flying with the birds who only look for their prey.